Did you read my feature article this month, Kingdom Equity: The Story of Three Widows Helping Tens, Hundreds, and Thousands? I hope you could envision Miriam Neff, Gayle Roper, and Lori Bohning as I do. If so, in your imagination you’d see the first three stars of a velvety, black summer night—points of light that catch our attention. And the longer you looked, the more stars you would see—the tens, hundreds, and thousands of people they’ve reached.
If you are out in a field or camping up in the mountains on a moonless night, you’ll behold a breath-taking spectacle—countless stars begin to fill the sky dot by dot. Our Milky Way galaxy is a wispy white cloud of them; the Big Dipper, the Teapot, the “W” shaped Cassiopeia, and other familiar constellations stand out in July. As much as I enjoy star-gazing, though I don’t really know why God made stars, do you?
I don’t know why God made widows, either, but I do know they are very important to Him. Perhaps they display God’s glory like stars to a dark world. Not only Miriam, Gayle, and Lori—but many other widows (maybe YOU!) are a light to their family, church, friends, and community.
There are many surprising glimpses in the Bible about how important widows are to God. When I was widowed, it never occurred to me that God had so much to say about widowhood.
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WHEN I SKIMMED THE SIXTY-SIX BOOKS LISTED THERE, I FOUND ONLY TWO THAT WERE NAMED AFTER WOMEN—RUTH (A WIDOW) AND ESTHER (AN ORPHAN).
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Did you know that widows fill the Bible from cover to cover, from Genesis to Revelation? You may recall that Jesus told the parable of the persistent widow or that He pointed out the widow who gave her offering of two small coins. He told his disciples that her coins were worth more than gold because she gave everything she had. These stories reveal the very real ways that widows are examples to us even today. I’ve met persistent widows, haven’t you? I’ve met widows who have given everything, haven’t you? These ladies shine like stars to me.
But God mentions widows many more times. In fact, at the founding of the nation of Israel and the beginning of the church, God instructed His people to pay special attention to them. A very unique command is in Exodus 22:22, “Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless.” This was foundational for Israel! Widows were important to God!
In Acts 6, we find that widows are the very first group that the first Christians were directed to minister to. Widows were important to God!
And then there’s the book of James. Although it’s towards the end of our Bible, it was actually the first book written in the New Testament. James 1:27 commands Christians to “look after orphans and widows in their distress…” Widows are important to God!
Why do you suppose widows and orphans were pointed out like that? Have you wondered why we should look after them? I have, and I recently discovered a clue right on the “Contents” page at the beginning of my Bible. When I skimmed the sixty-six books listed there, I found only two that were named after women—Ruth and Esther. Did you know that Ruth was a widow and Esther was an orphan?
I was amazed—no wonder we need to take care of widows and orphans! What would happen if we took Ruth and Esther out of the Bible? The Bible would be INCOMPLETE! Our world would be incomplete without widows and orphans. It’d be like the night sky without stars.
The Matthew 1 genealogy of Jesus Christ names five women, which is very unusual. (Usually, it’s only men who are named.) These women were Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Bathsheba (the wife of Uriah), and Mary, the mother of Jesus. Did you know that most of these ladies were widowed?
There were dozens of other women who could have been listed in that genealogy, but these five were women who refused to become victims. They are forever honored in the lineage of Christ. Did you know that Mary was most likely a widow? We never read a word about Joseph after Jesus was twelve years old. Did Jesus lose his earthly father when he was a teenager? Scripture doesn’t tell us for certain, but it’s certainly something to consider.
Do you know who the first woman was to tell the world about the birth of Jesus? She was an 84-year-old widow named Anna. (Luke 2:36-38) Anna’s husband had died after they’d been married for only seven years. I’ve found that, like Anna, older widows have amazing stories that the world needs to hear.
Besides the resurrection of Jesus Christ, did you know there were other people raised from the dead in the Bible? The first account in the Old Testament was when Elijah the prophet raised the son of a widow; the first resurrection in the New Testament was when Jesus raised the son of a widow. Isn’t it interesting that in both cases God extended this miraculous power to help a widow first? Someone might object and say that God should have raised the husbands! But God knows what widows need most.
In the early days of the church, the Apostle Peter raised someone from the dead, a woman named Tabitha, also known as Dorcas. We don’t know if she was a widow, but we do know that she helped widows! (Acts 9:36-43) Once again, that tells me widows are important to God.
You might say that widows are my heroes, and I would agree. When I see widows, I see women whom God has singled out. They are chosen, beloved, and honored. God takes the weak things of this world to confound the wise.
Each widow has a message that God tells the world through her. She might never know what her message is, or know that she even has one. But that’s because it’s for others to see. Where she sees only loss, we can
see her faithfulness and undying love. Oh, that we all could love our spouse like that! When a widow tells us that life is short, we hear that it must be cherished. She might claim a broken heart at first, but her message might be that it’s an open vessel that God will fill; we see that eventually, He does. When she has a need, we have an opportunity to reach out and obey God. And when a widow smiles or sings, we know that Heaven is filled with the glory of her courage and joy, like points of light in the velvety night.
What can you learn from the widows you see? Each one shines important light and life to our dark world. Don’t miss out on the spectacular view. //
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Ferree Hardy has helped thousands of widows through her book, “Postcards from the Widows’ Path,” small groups, speaking, and personal coaching, but touching one life at a time is what matters most to her. She holds a BA from Moody Bible Institute, and was a pastor’s wife in Ohio for over twenty years before her first husband died. She’s happily remarried now, and her readers know that moving seems to have become a hobby for her. But she also enjoys backyard chickens, aims to read fifty books a year, and loves to bake. Learn more by visiting her blog.